Beloved readers we have covered in Part I what a Zero-sum person is and the havoc they can wreak on your life. In Part II we discussed how to identify them. In this part, the final part, we will discuss how to get rid of them or mitigated their toxic influence in your life. (Huzzah!) I noted, back in Part I that being a feminine woman can often make you a target of these types. There are several reasons as to why, but they all boil down to the fact that in these times, being feminine will get you noticedRead on, beloved readers!
Beloved readers, I started my series about people with this mentality with this post, so you may want to glance at it to know what all of the following bluster is about. I will wait, no worries. Done? Great! Now then, as I mentioned at the close of my previous post, Part II is about how to identify people with this mentality, that may have taken up residence in your little, golden life. Identifying people with this mentality is half the battle, beloved readers. You cannot effectively engage what you cannot see. One of the hardest things about identifying Zero-sumRead on, beloved readers!
Beloved readers, I have pondered off and on about writing this short series; however, due to recent events with some unfortunate individuals I must entertain for four months I decided it should be written. It should most definitely be written. Before I begin, I would like to share why this will be useful to you, beloved readers: Understanding how people with a Zero-Sum mentality is going to save you from countless heartbreaks, lost time, lost money, lost social opportunities, emotional scars, lost professional opportunities, and even physical harm! You MUST be able to identify and handle these kind of individuals as aRead on, beloved readers!
“Manners are the exercise of the imagination on the behalf of others.” -Elizabeth Bowen Many of us –dare I say most of us– beloved readers, have heard of the “Golden Rule”: Do onto others as you would have them do unto you. In other words: Treat others the way you would like to be treated. The world would be a far happier place if even half of we Homo Sapiens took this to heart. Unfortunately, at least at face value, we –as a society– do not. (The words “epic” and “fail” come to mind.) This has left me to ponderRead on, beloved readers!
Do you say it as often as you should, beloved readers? Do you say it to the wrong person too often (what about yourself)? Do you say it too much in general? How do you use “No,” in your everyday life, good or bad? Does your use of it need to change? Why? What will you do today to make that change occur? Try taking a moment to actually write down the answers to these questions. It is hard to escape the truth when it is in black and white before you. It can also help to keep those answersRead on, beloved readers!
Beloved readers, this saying made me think of something I had not put much thought into in 2010. All of the people who are dear to my heart, fit the saying above. As 2011 is the year of my “getting it right” in a variety of ways, this too was added to my priority list: Support Systems. Do you have them? If not, why? What will you do about it? If so…great! How can you make them stronger and show those that support you that you appreciate them? It is so easy to throw co-workers, family (just because you areRead on, beloved readers!
Beloved readers, this post kicks off a new How To Be Swell discipline: Social skills. No, not those social skills (please, thank you, etc.). I mean those skills that make or break your reputation. They can make the difference between keeping your peace and making a fool of yourself. Those skills. This post, as the title belies, focuses on dealing with difficult people. Let us pause for a moment, here, beloved readers. #whybother? Do you have a strategy for dealing with difficult people YOU CANNOT ESCAPE FROM EASILY, like close friends, supervisors, associates, and family? There is little useRead on, beloved readers!
Before I begin this post, beloved readers, let me make this clear: This is not a post about “Haters”. Please erase that word and its connotations from your mind while reading this post. I do not care for the culture that has sprung around that word. “Frenemy” and its pop-culture connotations better fit what I am speaking to with this post. Before I go any further, I should define what a Frenemy is for the purpose of this post and for those who may not know. One humorous, but rather accurate definition is as follows: “The type of “friend” whoseRead on, beloved readers!
Beloved readers, we have all been in those situations where we are faced with a decision that is often a matter of financial, social, emotional, spiritual, or psychological life and death: Should I open my mouth or keep it shut? Learning to discern when it is best to speak and when it is best to remain silent (no matter what is being hurled your way) is an invaluable life skill that few truly master. Truly beautiful women (whose beauty radiates outward no matter their “physical beauty”) have mastered this fine art. When coupled with a proper response to hostility itRead on, beloved readers!