Little Golden Lamb

Beloved readers we have covered in Part I what a Zero-sum person is and the havoc they can wreak on your life. In Part II we discussed how to identify them. In this part, the final part, we will discuss how to get rid of them or mitigated their toxic influence in your life. (Huzzah!) I noted, back in Part I that being a feminine woman can often make you a target of these types. There are several reasons as to why, but they all boil down to the fact that in these times, being feminine will get you noticed

Beloved readers, I have pondered off and on about writing this short series; however, due to recent events with some unfortunate individuals I must entertain for four months I decided it should be written. It should most definitely be written. Before I begin, I would like to share why this will be useful to you, beloved readers: Understanding how people with a Zero-Sum mentality is going to save you from countless heartbreaks, lost time, lost money, lost social opportunities, emotional scars, lost professional opportunities, and even physical harm! You MUST be able to identify and handle these kind of individuals as a

Do you say it as often as you should, beloved readers? Do you say it to the wrong person too often (what about yourself)? Do you say it too much in general? How do you use “No,” in your everyday life, good or bad? Does your use of it need to change? Why? What will you do today to make that change occur? Try taking a moment to actually write down the answers to these questions. It is hard to escape the truth when it is in black and white before you. It can also help to keep those answers

Beloved readers, this post kicks off a new How To Be Swell discipline: Social skills. No, not those social skills (please, thank you, etc.). I mean those skills that make or break your reputation. They can make the difference between keeping your peace and making  a fool of yourself. Those skills. This post, as the title belies, focuses on dealing with difficult people. Let us pause for a moment, here, beloved readers.   #whybother? Do you have a strategy for dealing with difficult people YOU CANNOT ESCAPE FROM EASILY, like close friends, supervisors, associates, and family? There is little use

Beloved readers, we have all been in those situations where we are faced with a decision that is often a matter of financial, social, emotional, spiritual, or psychological life and death: Should I open my mouth or keep it shut? Learning to discern when it is best to speak and when it is best to remain silent (no matter what is being hurled your way) is an invaluable life skill that few truly master. Truly beautiful women (whose beauty radiates outward no matter their “physical beauty”) have mastered this fine art. When coupled with a proper response to hostility it