I outlined my full creed here, beloved readers.
9. Please don’t confuse sexy/hotness/flirting/being a coquette with being “feminine”. You can have a powerful femininity, a reserved femininity, a bubbly femininity, a forceful femininity, and so forth. It has absolutely nothing (I repeat –absolutely nothing!) to do with being in a constant “come hither” state, to excite men at every opportunity.
This belief is fairly straight forward, beloved readers. Essentially:
Do not think I will be rehashing the usual hogwash often given to women seeking to reclaim and foster their unique femininity, the blog-o-sphere over:
Be a flirt! Don’t be a flirt! Be blonde! Be thin! Act like a child! Act like a vixen! Act like a man!
Be skinny! Be curvy! Cough rainbows! Sneeze glitter! Show cleavage! Don’t show cleavage!
Act like a Geisha! Act like a harem girl! Act like a princess! Act like the Girl Next Door!
Be sexy! Don’t be sexy! Be Stupid! Be Mean! Be Nice! Show leg! Don’t show leg! Never be sad!
Act like his mom! Do not act like his mom! Giggle a lot! Be a goddess! Be domestic! Freebase sunshine!
Some of the above were obviously written with a bit of snark, but I believe you get the idea, beloved readers:
There are many “types” of femininity.
Do not let stereotypes constrain your unique femininity to tired and over-used notions of “femininity” –whatever those stereotypes and over-used notions are in your particular culture.