I outlined my full creed here.
This is my first of a series of posts that will elaborate on the points mentioned there before I get into the nitty gritty of femininity going into 2012.
The first belief I expressed in that post was this:
“It comes from the inside out.You can’t be full of inner chaos and have a GENUINE, TRUE, EFFORTLESS femininity. You may have the outside painted well enough, but it will difficult if not impossible to exude a warm and legitimate feminine air.”
I’d like to again refer people to my first intro post on my femininity content (click here).
I want to strongly to reiterate that I want to take an approach to femininity that I have yet to see become popular in the blog-o-sphere:
Attaining (Greater) femininity from the INSIDE out.
Why?
As I noted in that post:
“I am TERRIBLY weary of blogs that reduce femininity to learning the “Charm Secrets of Cleopatra” or “Geisha” or what have you and neglect the deep inner work that goes on with getting in touch with out femininity and gaining a true sense of womanhood. Especially, when we live in a world where women are subjugated, physically brutalized, and psychologically assaulted daily by a photoshop-and-plastic-surgery-laden “reality”.
This is even harder for women of color who has racism and a history of colonization to add into the mix.
Those resources ARE important. Oh, yes, beloved readers, they certainly are.
I feel they are one half of the coin however, and I am endeavoring to provide information that would reside on the other side of that same coin.”
Why does that matter?
“You can’t muse upon the charms and graces of Audrey Hepburn when you can’t navigate through your own emotions.
How can you ruminate upon how to walk more attractively or have more pleasing facial expressions when you lack the skills to purge your life of toxic friends who steal the “girlish glow” right out of you (yes, I have a tutorial about that)?
There’s a lot to be said about knowing how to walk properly in heels (which I will cover, I am a surgeon at this! See my Part 1 post here.).
There’s a lot MORE to be said about having TRUE, LASTING, AND TOTAL peace of mind. You will walk more attractively no matter WHAT you’re wearing when you’re fully at peace with yourself.
Being at peace with yourself, beloved readers, is where I believe the beginning of finding your true femininity lies.
All of the perfectly applied make-up in the world cannot mask a woman that’s not in step with womanhood –in the form of her particular, personal, and unique brand of femininity.”
With that typed and read, I wanted to delve just a bit further into what I mean by “true” and “real” femininity.
I’m talking about sincerity, which is growing rarer by the minute in men and women the world over.
Sincerity in how you treat YOURSELF and others. Sincerity is not to be confused, on this blog, with “flattery”, “deceit”, or “manipulation”.
No.
Sometimes we have to completely relearn what it means. Many of us were not treated to sincere kindness often in life, or at all. It can be difficult to find positive examples of sincerity. The media certainly isn’t churning them out .
There are plenty of examples of sincere hate, cruelty, selfishness, anger, bigotry, sorrow, despair, and hopelessness.
There are fewer examples of sincere mercy, generosity, hope, kindness, generosity, and so forth.
Why all of the mumbo-jumbo about “feelings”, you ask, beloved readers?
Femininity involves emotions.
That’s not to say Masculinity does not –they are just expressed in an equally valid, but different way.
To get in tune with your true feminine self, you’re going to have to be able to deal with your emotions in a healthy way and display them in your everyday life in a sincere fashion (hopefully, the positive ones will be seen most often!).
You may need to change your diet, seek hormone therapy, see a therapist, join a church, cut toxic people out of your life, find good examples if you have none in your current social circles, and FIGHT to learn how to deal with your own emotions.
It’s not easy (I can only do so through my belief in Christ, to be honest).
I don’t claim to have a tutorial for that –there are hordes of other blogs, websites, books, seminars, etc. devoted to that.
I simply want to bring awareness to it and encourage you to pursue it. It IS worthwhile and YOU ARE SO VERY WORTH IT, beloved readers.
Are you in charge of your emotions, so you can show and experience them in a healthy, sincere way? (If so, hurray!)
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If not, what are you going to do about it?
5 comments
Things1429
December 8, 2011 at 9:09 am (UTC -7)
THIS – Wisdom beyond your years. This is why I stalk your blog. Peace.
Little Golden Lamb
December 8, 2011 at 9:40 am (UTC -7)
Peace to you as well!!
Rayne Sinclair
December 13, 2011 at 10:07 pm (UTC -7)
I just discovered your blog! And was so pulled in by your cheerfulness and truthfulness. Keep up the great work; you’ve got a new reader in me
DD
Little Golden Lamb
December 14, 2011 at 1:59 pm (UTC -7)
Thank you, for the encouragement!
Nika
January 9, 2012 at 7:04 pm (UTC -7)
this is an awesome post, and I definitely agree.